What I wish someone told me
before I became a mom

Nobody told me. And I think that is the thing. You cannot really prepare someone for motherhood. You just have to live it. So this is me being honest about what those first weeks were really like.

Everything revolves around a tiny human

I did not expect how completely my life would shift overnight.

Sleep. A proper shower. Eating while the food is still warm. My skincare routine that I did every single night without thinking. All of it changed. Not gradually. Just suddenly one day it was all different.

Everything I used to take for granted became something I had to plan around a tiny person who had no idea he had turned my whole world upside down.

But here is the thing I also did not expect. I appreciate those things so much more now. A hot cup of tea. Five quiet minutes. A full night of sleep. Things that used to mean nothing to me feel like gifts now.

The love that nobody warned me about

I knew I would love him. Of course I knew that.

But I did not know it would feel like this. There are no words for it honestly. It is not like anything I have ever felt before. The moment I held him everything else just stopped mattering in the way it used to.

That is the thing nobody warned me about. Not the hard parts. The love. How enormous it is. How it just takes over everything.

What I would tell every pregnant mom right now

If you are pregnant right now and you are nervous please read this.

With Allah's help, you will find your way through it. You will figure it out as you go and that is completely normal. Every mom does.

Do not be afraid to ask for help. And if someone offers you help please just take it. There is no prize for doing it all alone. Let people in. Let them bring food, hold the baby, sit with you. It matters.

And please do not lose yourself in it. You are still you. You are a mom now but you are also still the woman you were before. Keep your cup full because you cannot pour from an empty cup.

Take the shower. Do the skincare. Pray your prayers even when it is hard. Rest when you need to. You matter too.

Your baby does not need a perfect mother. They need a happy one.